COUPLES AND MARRIAGE COUNSELING

We provide specialized marriage counseling for couples impacted by unfaithfulness, betrayal or lack of intimacy in the relationship. Our approach enables couples to manage the consequences of addiction, build positive communication skills, reduce shame, rebuild trust, deal with disclosure of secrets, and develop a healthy sexual life. We utilize different models of therapy depending upon the specific problem including the marital-based Emotional Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) and The Gottman Method.

There are many reasons why couples choose to come in for counseling: Parenting disagreements, time management, feelings of disconnection, conflict and arguing, lacking intimacy, and problems with in-laws. At Doug White and Associates, we are here to help you rediscover what brought you together in the first place and reconnect with one another in a fresh new way.

For more information, or to schedule an appointment, contact us today.

Extramarital affairs are devastating for the marital relationship, not only because of broken trust but the resulting devastating feelings of abandonment, which is one of the biggest fears in any relationship. The trauma resulting from discovering the affair can make recovery seem impossible. For the spouse who participated in the affair, life feels completely out of control. The reality of possibly losing family, spouse, and/or job is a daily hurdle they must now navigate.

Affairs can come in many forms:

• Emotional
• Physical
• Cybersex
• Porn Usage
• Online Dating Apps
• Social Media
• Financial

You don’t have to go through this process alone. Recovery from an affair IS possible. The experienced team at Doug White and Associates can help you and your spouse process, understand, reconnect and heal in ways you might not have thought possible.

Recovering as a couple from sex addiction and/or an affair is a process that requires the partner and the addict coming together to fight as one for the relationship. This takes both the addict and the partner working on their “stuff” in order to better understand themselves and their partners. Oftentimes through this process both the addict and the partner gain the ability to be intimate, court, and enjoy one another’s company in a way they never imagined possible. However, it must be stressed this is a process that takes time, effort, commitment, and energy.

For the sex addict, disclosing your struggle with sex, porn, and/or love addiction is a terrifying undertaking. It is going to involve pain and stress for the injured loved one and/or spouse. This is a process that we take very seriously at Doug White and Associates. Our aim is to help you disclose your struggle to your loved one and/or spouse in the least harmful way possible. We are trained in helping you disclose your struggle to your loved one when the time is right. To minimize the possibility of relapse and further damaging your loved one and/or spouse’s trust, we wait to perform a disclosure until a period of sobriety has been obtained by the addict.

The process of rebuilding trust in the relationship is a difficult one for the addict and their partner. The addict is in the process of rewiring their brain and stepping away from living a life characterized by secrets. The partner is trying to grasp what is reality and what is or was a lie. As a couple, you are in the process of redefining normal. You are experiencing a grieving process of the life you thought you had and rebuilding each of your lives and your marriage from the ground up.

The good news is that rebuilding trust is possible. The professionally trained team of counselors at Doug White and Associates are there to walk alongside you in the process of rebuilding trust in your marriage.

We offer premarital counseling for you and your future spouse. Our approach is wholistic and utilizes assessments from PREPARE/ENRICH. We use these assessments to explore potential barriers to success and authentic intimacy in your marriage to ensure you get a strong start. By taking a proactive approach in your relationship with your future spouse, you can strengthen your ability to manage conflict, improve your ability to communicate needs and wants as well as your emotions.

Taking a proactive approach to your marriage might look different to different people. For some, it might include a discussion about adoption or having your first child. For others, it could be how to manage stress or finances as a couple. At Doug White and Associates, we work with you to ensure your union is the best it can be!

For more information, or to schedule an appointment, contact us today.